Are You Worried Your Tween is Growing Up Too Fast?
Do You Want to Get it Right Before it Gets Rocky?
Are you:
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Feeling a loss of control over your tween?
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Worried your tween will learn about sex on the Internet?
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Finding it difficult to communicate and connect with your tween?
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Unsure how to respond to their constant requests for more freedom?
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Fearful of setting strong rules in case he or she rebels?
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Doubting your ability to effectively parent a teenager?
If you can relate to any of the above, you are not alone!
 Many parents struggle with the same concerns and wonder if they have what it takes to parent their tween in our media- focused society.
Our media, Internet, and constantly changing technologies make the job of parenting harder than ever before.
According to Affluenza – The All-Consuming Epidemic:
“For the first time in human history, children are getting most of their information from entities whose goal is to sell them something, rather than from family, school or houses of worship. The average 12- year- old in the U.S. spends 48 hours a week exposed to commercial messages. Yet American children spend only about 40 minutes per week in meaningful conversation with their parents.” |
As a parent you may wonder how much influence you still have.
It’s scary knowing our children have access to information that is disturbing and adult like.
It's not just your imagination:
According to psychologist Catherine Steiner-Adair, who works with adolescent girls:
“Twelve-year-olds are now being sold the same clothing line as eighteen –year-olds. We’ve really lost what used to be called the middle school years. It’s almost like kids go from elementary school to teenagers.” |
No one handed you a guidebook when your child was born, and parenting can get more challenging as the years progress especially in our high tech world.
But, the good news is you can get clear about how to handle this important transition in your parenting career.
Here’s how coaching with a professional life coach can help...
Parent coaching with me will help increase your confidence and develop simple, yet effective skills for parenting your tween. I will work with you to develop strategies and make decisions that are suitable for you, your tween and your family.
“Before coaching with Shirley, I felt a loss of control over my preteen and was very anxious about how quickly she seemed to be growing up. My 12 year old was asking to date, wear makeup, and I discovered 1200 text messages on her first cell phone bill. I felt stuck between wanting to be reasonable and allowing her more freedom, but I didn’t want to be overly permissive either. Shirley guided me to make important decisions about how to parent my rapidly changing tween. She lifted me out of my anxiety and urged me to look at the “bigger picture” as I made choices about what I would allow my daughter to do and when. I am a single parent, and my ideas about what freedoms to permit often differ from my ex husband’s. Shirley helped me feel more confident, calm and in control as a parent. I trust her instincts and felt she was 100% focused on my issues and concerns.
S. Kelly, mother of two, Denver, Colorado |
Using my DELIVRTM coaching process, I will Help You Navigate the Road of Parenting Your Tween.
With my help you will:
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Identify your most critical personal values and convey them effectively to your tween so they can hear the truth from you - not just what the media feeds them
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Make clear decisions about which freedoms you are willing to give your child
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Set clear rules for your tween, being firm when necessary, yet knowing when to be flexible
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Feel more confident, successful and in control as a parent
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Develop a stronger and more positive connection with your tween
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Feel less stressed and in charge of your home
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Be better prepared for the teen years
 You already have what it takes to navigate this important time in your child's life. The answers are within you, along with all your good intentions as a parent. Together we will work to bring out the best in you - shining a light on the resourceful and effective parent that you already are.
I will collaborate with you, offering perspectives you might not have considered and help you develop the skills to navigate some of the most challenging years you will face as a parent. But the final answers will be YOURS. And all along the way I will encourage and support you while you evolve into an awesome parent of a full- blown teenager.
I am trained as a Co-Active Life Coach from the acclaimed Coaches Training Institute. – often referred to as the Harvard U of the industry. I design and facilitate workshops for Moms of Tweens in the Southern California area. And - most importantly - I too am a parent of a tween, as well as a teenager. I've been on both ends of the spectrum and I know how important (and precious) this transitional time is for all of us. I can help YOU continue to be the BEST parent you can be.
“I was very upset by the rude and disrespectful behavior my son was displaying, and I felt unprepared to respond to his many requests for unsupervised time with his friends. Coaching with Shirley opened my mind to the new world of parenting a tween. She asked me thought provoking questions that helped me think about new ways to respond to my son, and to get clear about what things I would allow him to do. Shirley encouraged me to think about my values and my own parenting style as I made choices about how to address the disturbing changes I saw in my son. With her guidance I was able to communicate my concerns and ideas with my husband so that together we could come up with a plan on how to better manage this challenging, time for our family. I really appreciate Shirley’s gift of eliciting my thoughts and concerns so that I could stop spinning my wheels, and get clear and decisive about how I would parent from this point forward. And, because she is also the parent of a tween and teen, she really understands exactly what we are going through!”
Tina C., Mother of three, Monterey Park, California
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Time is passing quickly, and your tween is growing up fast, so now is the time to make a difference. It only gets more difficult the longer you wait to get support.
If you want to get it right before things get rocky then don't wait another moment to contact me.
Call 818.893.8484 now for a free 20 minute sample session to discover how coaching can help make life easier and happier for you, your child and your family during the tween years.
Shirley Oya is a Coach for moms of tweens in Southern California.
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